Relationships Confuse Me

Hey there, anyone who is actually reading this. Its been so so so long since I posted and a lot has changed. I'm now in relationship with a 19 year old...I'm 16. Thats kinda beside the point though. My problem is i don't know how i actually feel about the relationship anymore. We've been dating for 3 months and sometimes i'm really happy with him and other times i'm just like meh. I think he is way more committed to the relationship than I am. Like marriage and shit and I'm like.... ummm lets see if we last until christmas. Another problem is he's super depressed and slightly clingy and i don't know how to deal with that. He's so fun but when he's depressed and unhappy it brings me down to. I can;t decide what I want to do. Advice anyone??? please I'm begging you comment on this and give me your opinion or advice!

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The Lonely xoxo

Boys boys boys

Isn't it amazing how you can feel like no boy will ever be interested in you and then all of the sudden you have like 4 interested in you at once? 

I Fucking Hate Boys

So, there was this boy. I met him while I was in Ottawa and he was perfect. He lived in Halifax but thats beside the point. He was so nice and funny and he had goals inline. On top of that he didn't drink or do drugs. He was an all around awesome person. When we left Ottawa he'd text me everyday  and there would be lots of smiley faces used and all that good stuff. But it would appear somethings changed today. He seems distance and totally not into me. It's so weird. How can boys just change their mind like that. I don't fucking understand. They constantly break girls hearts and ruin our live. They make us emotional wrecks and honestly they just cause a shit load of problems. I'm not saying its always the guys fault it's just their so damn unpredictable. Sorry about My little rant.

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The Lonely xoxo

Journalism approach

I've decided to take more of a journalistic approach to my posts. I'm going to actually do research and go out in the field and learn things for myself. It'll be more scientific ish. My first topic- boys.

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The Lonely xoxo

iisuperwomanii the best youtube comedian

I feel the need to inform all of you about the greatest comedian alive. The youtube comedian superwoman is honestly hilarious. Her videos cover things we can all relate to and just make you laugh. I love watching her videos when I'm bored because they are extremely entertaining! She keeps it real. I should say though she seems to be be more popular with females but some guys like her to. Below I've put links for some of my favourite videos by her! check it out!

Girls On Their Periods

Parent Teacher Interviews

How Girls Get Ready

How I Get Work Done

Types of Annoying Guys

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The Lonely xoxo

How To Handle Your Ex-Bestfriend Getting A Boyfriend

Here's the situation, there's this girl and for the purpose of confidentiality I'm going to refer to her as Miss Perfect. so anyway Miss Perfect and I were best friends for awhile her and a few other girls were "my crew". Then through a series of unfortunate events (they weren't that unfortunate it was more like a series of stupid lies) I ended up friendless. Now I know I sound like every girl when I say Its not me who was being mean, but this time it truly wasn't me and I did everything in my power to make them see that. Which didn't exactly work. At the time I had a boyfriend to hangout with but then we broke up and now I have zippo people to hangout with.

On to the point now... I'm on Facebook this morning and I see a post that says Miss Perfect and some other guy are in a relationship. It shouldn't affect me, I mean I switched schools so I wouldn't have to deal with all the people at my old school (My Ex-friends and Ex-boyfriend) but it hit me like a punch to the boob; fast, painful and sore for awhile. It made me feel even more lonely and I almost started crying. I miss having a boyfriend and people to talk to and hangout with. It sucks to see someone who ruined everything for you succeed and I'm really torn and confused. There are many factors to my loneliness but this certainly didn't help. I feel like I've worked so hard to try and be happy and improve my life and yet still nothing goes my way.

I know I haven't described how I'm feeling very much but right now I can't even put into words how I feel.  If anyone has any advice or opinions or just wants to say something random please, please, please comment, send me and email or tweet. I'd really love to hear from someone.

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The Lonely xoxo

I Wish I Was Latin

For about a year now I have wanted to be latin which is completely unrealistic because I live in Canada and my family is of European descent but you can always dream right? There is is something very intriguing about latin people and latin culture. There's a certain mystery behind the people but at the same time the culture is so vibrant. The loud bursting with energy with music, the dancing, the exotic looks it's all just very appealing to me. I recently watched a movie with lots of latin dancing and the way they move is just mesmerizing. I seriously wish I could move my body like that. On top of that they speak spanish which in my opinion is a beautiful language. This post is a little random but I just really wanted to get my feelings out there. 

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The Lonely xoxo

Wolf Boy

So, there's this truly hot boy at my school, who I happen to be looking at right now. I was tempted to take a subtly take a picture of him and don't call me a creep because we've all done it. Casually taking a picture of someone you don't really know. Anyway, I've started calling this guy wot boy because he looks like a wolf which does not mean he looks like Taylor Lautner. I've never actually talked to this guy but he's so cute and he wore his glasses today which just melted my heart. I need to devise a master plan to talk to him.

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The Lonely xoxo

Here we go again!

Tomorrow I go to Camp 22 or as some people call it, school. I switched schools about three weeks ago and it has been quite a change. High school is often referred to as "the best years of your life" well let me tell you that is complete bullshit. I've personally had nothing but bad experiences in high school. It like a bloody minefield one second your casually sauntering along and the next second BAM! your blown off your feet! Whether its the complete mystery that is boys, the intense school work, gossip or the slightly illegal activities that go on High School is a complete disaster. I have successfully survived the first semester of torture. One down five more to go and to help survive the rest of my dreadful High School experience I've come up with five tips to help guide myself and anyone else through this god-awful time in our lives.

Tips:

1. Smile and act happy- nobody will make fun of you if your happy.

2. Do not get involved with the male species!- boys are just asking for trouble. They are an endless supply of drama. Wait until university when they are a little bit smarter.

3. Fly under the radar- Don't do crazy things to get noticed like wearing high tops that come up to your knees.

4. Read lots of books- They can give you the High School experience you always wanted but probably won't have.

5. Hangout with the right people- Have a group of friends who are similar to you and don't try to change you.

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The Lonely xoxo

Reading Royalty

After the wedding of Prince William and Kate Middleton like many other girls I started thinking about what if I end up marrying a prince? It's many girls dream to become a princess and live happily ever after but lets face it there is only a handful of princes in the world a billions of girls. It may have worked out in Kate Middleton's favour but most of us will end up marrying a guy who we call our prince charming but is really just a guy who we met in some "interesting" way. There will always be that desire to have a perfect romance with a prince or royalty, so to satisfy that desire I have turned to books. I have found a few books where a commoner ends up with a royal and I must say you feel very happy and hopeful after reading a book like that. So, I have compiled a list of books involving royals so that we can all live out our dreams vicariously through the characters in the books. 

1. The Calypso Chronicles by Tyne O'Connell 

This series of 4 books were great! I personally loved them. It's the classic story of a girl from North America attending boarding school in England where she meets her prince. The four books were Pulling Princes, Stealing Princes, Dueling Princes and Dumping Princes. When I bought them I actually only bought two books. The first two stories were in one and the last two stories were in the other. Those to books were called A Royal Match and A Royal Mess. If you like books about the unpopular girl getting the popular guy or in this case Royal then you'll love these books. They're full of laughs and romance!

2. The Princess For Hire series by Lindsey Leavitt 

This series of 3 had an awesome plot line. An normal girl who has magic! it doesn't get better than that! The books are all about how this girl gets hired by a princess replacement company so that when real princess's get tired of carrying out their royal duties they can hire someone who through the power of magic transforms into the princess and carries out the duties. This results in many hilarious events and one teenage girl finding her real-life prince. The three books are Princess For Hire, The Royal Treatment and Farwell To Charms. These books are perfect who like romance, royalty and a little bit of magic. 

3. The Valerie Winslow Series by Niki Burnham 

Ok- I seriously could not stop reading this trilogy. I actually managed to buy all three books in one the name of the book was Royally Crushed. If your buying each book by itself the names are Royally Jacked, Spin Control and Do-Over. The series is about a girl who moves to a small European country where she attends a fancy school where she meets the prince of the country. Not only are they going to school together but they are also living under the same roof (sorta). Her father works for the royal family so they have an apartment in the palace. I guarantee you will enjoy this series !

4. Cloaked by Alex Flinn 

For fantasy lovers this is the book for you! Now the main character of the story doesn't necessarily end up with royalty but this book is based off of many fairytales and there is some royals in it! Of course there is still a love story which i very much enjoyed. I brought this book on vacation with me and thought it was the perfect book to bring along. I would highly recommend reading it! 

5. A Kiss In Time by Alex Flin

This is one book I haven't read YET. It is on my book shelf and is certainly on my list of must reads. I have heard all positive responses from this book and from what I gather the book is based off of sleeping beauty. After reading the back it sounds like an opposites attract book where a regular guy falls in love with a princess. If anyone has read this book please leave a comment and let me know how it is! 

I love reading and I think its a great escape. I will probably do more book posts in the future! If anyone knows of anymore books involving royalty and romances please let me know! 

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The Lonely xoxo

Twitter!

I started a twitter account to go along with this blog! The name is life in general or thelonely_19 if you search either you should find the account. I would appreciate it ever so much if you followed the account! 

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The Lonely xoxo

Ask.Fm The Door to Cyber-Bullying

Social media has become such a big part of present day life that sometimes I think people have great new technological ideas but don't stop to think about the effects that their idea could have on society. A very good example of this is Ask.fm. A site that allows people to ask anonymous questions to people (typically people they know) when the question is answered it is then posted on a news feed. The website is most popular with teens and being a teen myself I once had an account. After having it for a few months and seeing the questions people answered and how many people were using the anonymous part of the site to attack people I deactivated my account. The things people would write to each other were disturbing. Comments and questions like "why are you such a slut?" or "you're the ugliest thing i've ever seen" were all over my news feed and the thing is whoever the question or comment was directed to would actually answer them. They didn't know who asked them the question or made the comment but they'd still reply even if it was just "i don't know" for an answer. Still they gave in to these people who were hiding behind a computer screen bullying them. The worst is that its completely anonymous, they didn't even know who was bullying them!

Ask.fm has taken cyber-bullying to a whole new level. When you look at the premise of the website and think about its pretty much asking people to bully each other. This is something the founders clearly didn't think about when they launched the company. Not to say that it is their fault but it's defiantly something people in social need to think about. They should be asking themselves the question, how will this effect our audience? Also teenagers need to learn when its time to stop. By keeping their accounts on Ask.Fm they are opening the door for bullying. With one click their account's gone and nobody can ask them mean questions or make comments about them. Yet it seems in possible for them to pull away even though ultimately the things that are said to them on the site are lowering their self-esteem and hurting them. It's like an addiction, they need to know what people are saying about them and they need to know what people are saying about others.

We all know bullying is wrong and we hear all the time about solutions to end the bullying cycle. As an average person I know how hard it is to really act on ending the bullying cycle. It takes courage. It took awhile but eventually I found my courage. I know everyone has courage in them so I encourage you to dig deep and try to set an example for others by doing something as simple as deleting your Ask.fm account. These are just my opinions but I hope you take the time to think about what i've said.

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The Lonely xoxo

Cat wars

Ok-so here's the thing my parents are divorced, have been since i was six and I'm sixteen now so 10 years. At my dads house we have two cats one is mine and one is his. My younger brother doesn't get a pet because he always tries to sit on animals heads. He's a strange little child. Anyway back to the point my dad and I are always saying that each others cats suck. Really it has nothing to do with cats we both just want to be the best cat owner. Let me stop now and say for the record I am not a crazy cat lady. Anyway my dad is always trying to prove himself the better cat owner by STEALING my cat! So maybe its not exactly stealing its more just inviting my cat to sit on his lap, which pisses me off to no end. He's always kind of beaten me at our little cat competition, until today. Oh how the tables have turned my friends! Today his cat came and sat on MY lap. Mwhahaha I'm back in the came. May the best cat owner win. Will keep you updated on the cat wars even if you don't want to hear it!

(The cat in the picture is my dads cat)

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The Lonely xoxo

Getting started

Well, this is my first post. I don't have a whole lot to say right now which is unfortunate but I guess I should talk about what my blog is going to be about. As made clear in the title this blog does not focus on one thing. It's about my life and everything that goes on it.  For the time being I plan to keep my identity a secret and will refer to myself as "the lonely" because lets face it I am lonely (more about that in later posts). Right now I'm just trying to figure out the whole blogging thing works so give me time and I promise my blog will become more entertaining!

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xoxo the lonely